As a single working women I was tired of coming home to an empty apartment and eating alone every night. I did not have a ton of time on my hands to prowl bars. I did not have the finances to be out every night either, so I thought I should try a free online dating site. I had a friend who suggested that I give Plenty-Of-Fish a try. The same seemed weird to me, but I trusted my friend so I created a profile. I mean, there was nothing to lose but my time, because the site is pretty much free. Well I stuck with it for about six months and all I can say is whoever says there's still plenty of fish in the sea must not be fishing in my area!
My first experience was with a man who said he was from France, he picked me up and the first thing he suggested was that we go to his place for a drink. I wanted to get to know him better before going to his house. Besides, I was hungry. So I suggested we go someplace for some food. He very calmly sized me up and then said, “I am not interested in feeding your, I am only interested in having sex with you.” Well I suggested that if he touched me I would string him up by the eyelids and kick him in the nuts until he blinked!
OMG , I could go on for weeks telling you horror stories from POF connections. Married men, perverts, pigs who say they're looking for long term relationships but only want to get you in bed. The psychos that continue to call even after you tell them to go fly a kite, and threaten to call the police. There is even a Gaga video that shows POF being used in prison. From my experiences, I will bet money that prison inmates have full access to this site.
In my experience, I have never found such a concentration of fakes, cheats and liars before. And they are all in one convenient place to boot! In my several months with POF I met over twenty guys in person. Most of them never got past the first date. A couple got to the second date but no farther. And it turns out that the only one with more potential than that confessed to be an illegal alien on the fifth date. I liked the guy, but with an agenda like that I could never be sure why he was interested in me. One way that I found to cull out a lot of them was to insist on going on video chat with them. I kept setting up throw away accounts on Hotmail just for that purpose. Many would not, and several who did should not have because they looked unkept, and nothing like their pictures. POF does have its good points I suppose. If you are of average or even a bit below average in the looks department, you will get more than your fair share of attention.
The last straw for me with POF came when I made a date with a so called registered accountant, who by the way lives in a first class condo in down town New York. The evening started out on a high note. We went to a really nice Italian restaurant, where we ordered lasagna and a nice chianti to go with it. For desert we had tiramisu. I had never went back to anyone's apartment before on a first date, but I made a rare exception in his case. Everything seemed to be on the up and up with him. He was attentive in his apartment as well. We listened to music while we talked and kissed and snuggled. It was so great! Just at the point where I was beginning to think that I had finally found a keeper on POF, the axe fell. The cretin asked me to strip naked, insert a horse tail butt plug and play horsy with him. Well after yelling at him a bit, using words like creep, pervert, twisted, and I forget what all else, I smacked him with my purse and cantered right out the door.
At that point, I went home and deleted my profile on Plenty Of Fish. It seems to be a popular site, but for me it was a complete waste of time. I was so discouraged about this site that I vowed I would never again use a free dating site of any sort. My friend, being the pal that she was, did a bunch of searching on her own and said that she found a link with a bunch of recommended dating sites on it. She twisted my arm a bit and got me to at least check it out to see if I could find a better place than POF. When I got there I viewed it with a lot of skepticism, but once I realized the POF was not on their recommended list, they gained a bit in my esteem. I was also surprised to find that eharmony was not there either – with all the ads on TV I had seen, they were the one I was going to try next, but they were just so darn expensive. After checking out some of the sites on one of their category pages, I signed up to a couple. I had decided that by spreading my profile farther afield that it would make it easier to just delete it from one of the sites. Anyway, it was a good move because now I am meeting men who are looking for longer term commitments rather than just a roll in the sack. My social life suddenly got a whole lot better, and I am enjoying life again.
You will find that most dating sites are on the up and up, but some just have a disproportionate amount of idiots on them. You have to be on your guard all the time. Even the very top notch sites have their fair share of morons. Always be careful what you give out about yourself on the web in general. Safe sex starts with safe hex – keep your profile clean and keep personal address and contact information out of it. Even if a site is doing a great job at filtering out the weirdos, some still squeak through.
So take a look at the link below. It is the site my friend found. I am pointing you at their advice pages first. If you have never been on a dating site before, read up before joining. Good luck.
Dating Advice for Women