Finding yourself single again after what seems like a life time of marriage and being over 50 can feel like falling down the proverbial well. Almost half of women over the age of sixty live alone compared to only one out of six men. Dating sure has become a different animal in the last couple or three decades. Today it is not unusual to see a grandmother buying condoms along with her Metamucil or denture cleaner. Older men are also a bit confused by modern dating etiquette, and are somewhat uncertain as to whether to be chivalrous, treat their female date with the same consideration as a male friend, or go dutch treat.
Several old television relic’s have proven more than once that we all have a come back or two in us, but with every failed date that idea, likethe natural color of our hair, is slowly fading away. Approaching a relationship the second or third time around can be pretty daunting, especially if you have been out of the game for a few decades because of a successful relationship. Finding yourself splitting in your 50's can be a very shattering experience. Becoming a widow or widower is even more so. Finding the right man or women in your golden years is no easy task, you find more Mr and Mrs Wrongs than Rights. And all of them seem to talk about are their medical problems a lot ('ha' like I don't have my own).
I have met some funny (strange) people during my dating experiences. One guy fawned over me to the point of nausea Another only talked about his kids, grandkids, and sports he was into, to the tune that we never spent any time talking about me at all. It may have been nerves, but what came through was an overly dominant 'all about me' personality that I ran from as quickly as possible.. You will often have to sit through a boring evening of stories about their current job or past profession, their deceased wife, ex girl friends, how good they are in bed, and how their hemorrhoids are inflamed and they cannot sit for another minute. Oh, and to top it all off, proceed to tell you that they have a new prescription for Viagra.
And its just as discouraging for the men. The most recurring male horror story is the woman who is trying to control from the first date, or someone who is in such a hurry to set their hooks in that they are trying to move in after a couple of weeks. All of these are symptoms of a fundamental incompatibility with each other from the get-go.
Why is it that mature people have so many problems finding a compatible mate? They say life gets easier as you get older. Too bad they can't say the same for senior dating. I mean what's the problem? We are not amateurs in the dating game! We know who we are and what we want. Why should it be so difficult? Are we maybe just to set in our ways? I don't think so! Mature adults want the same things that younger men and women are hoping to find in a relationship. They all want:
1) Someone To Listen
2) Someone To Care
3)Someone Interesting
4)Someone Compassionate
5)Someone Loving
6)Someone Understanding
7)Someone Compatible
8)Someone With Similar Interests
9)Someone With similar Values
10)Someone To Share Our Lives With
11)Someone Who Respects Me
12)Someone I Can Respect
Why would that, in any way, be too much to ask for?
After discussing my problems with some of my best friends. They suggested that I try one of the many senior dating sites available online. I shied away from the topic and the idea of a dating site, but after some encouraging insights from my friends, and after being a lonely heart for way too long, I decided to give it a go. I turned on my computer and googled senior dating sites. There were so many that I was taken aback.
It was a little confusing for me at first. I started having flashbacks of when I was a kid trying to choose a candy bar at the store. I explained this to one one my friends and she suggested a site for me. This site is a dating site rating service. They have tested thousands of dating sites, and have a list of the sites that they recommend. All of them are categorized to make it easier to select. My friend said that she had signed up to a couple of the recommended sites just to make sure that she would find someone fast.
She said that is how she met her boyfriend. Here I was thinking that she met this wonderful man at work, boy was I taken aback. So I gave them a try, it was a cake walk I just created a profile, told them what I was looking for in a man, and they did the rest. It didn't take long before they had several men that were exactly what I have been looking for. I'm in dating heaven! For the first time in years I am actually going out with wonderful men and enjoying my self, life does get better with age.
If you are a mature man or women and you are seeking the person you want to spend the rest of your life with with, then take the first step. Check out the link below and join one or two of the sites. You will never regret it.
http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/seniordating.php