You have no idea what desperation is until you saw how horny I was a while back. After my husband and I split, I had been on my own for a couple of years, and had not had one date. Needless to say I had not been with a man either. Hell, one day I found myself looking at the butt crack of the 280 pound washing machine repairman with a gleam in my eye. I was just so incredibly horny. Now I know what Penelope must have felt like when her husband Odysseus (Ulysses) was gone for seven years.
For the last two years, I had spent all my time juggling a job, not to be mistaken for a career, and my young daughter. I had been counting the days until she started to attend school full time. At least now I had a couple of afternoons a week to myself. This was not as sweet as it sounds though because my time by myself was in the middle of the week. And they were split days to boot. No possibility of any Saturday night prowling around bars like I used to be able to do.
In the previous month's time frame, I had gone through a box of batteries on just my vibrator alone. It offered some relief, but a vibrator is nothing like having a man make passionate love to you all night. The difference is like night and day. Sort of on the same plane as snacking on a bag of chips rather than feasting at an all you can eat smorgasbord. Keeps you going, but does nothing for your soul. When I caught myself dreaming about making love to Newt Gingrich one night, I knew I had to do something right away. I was now officially off the wall insane! I guess that sex deprivation can do that to you. It is the worst possible torture that you could ever inflict on someone.
I finally turned to the Internet to help me find some relief. I would not have even thought of the Internet, except that I could not figure out one venue to meet men during the week days. Coffee clubs are great for meeting other stay at home women, but you will almost never find a man in attendance. Even though I might be able to meet some retired guys, my objective was to have some mutual satisfying sex. I did not want to risk having their heart stop in the middle of a marathon sexual orgy with me. PTA, clubs or bars are all after dinner events. There is really no place to meet men during the day. Choosing the Internet for me was a matter of desperation.
I knew I should join a dating site, but I had no idea which ones were the best ones to join. Eharmony and Match were flooding the television channels with commercials every day, but who believes everything that they see on tv? Besides, they both stress dating and long term relationships, and I was not going there yet. I needed a quick sex fix, and I wanted to get some variety before I decided to settle down again with just one guy. I found out about POF.com (formerly plentyoffish) but I saw good and bad reviews of almost every dating site I could find. I was kind of lost. I stumbled on a couple of sites that rated other dating sites, but one in particular also had a lot of dating advice as well. I have no idea how it was they chose the sites that they recommended, but if I was to do it myself I could be researching for months. My body would not grant me that much time. So I decided to join a few site right away.
I looked at the lists of sites while I was joining some of them. It was notable which sites where missing from the recommended list. I also found out this interesting tidbit. I am what you call a MILF. I will not translate MILF to you because it is kind of an uncouth term, but I was told that the men on MILF sites realize that all the women have young children living at home. In any event, all the sites that I joined were on their MILF page.
I was astounded with the attention that I got. I am only an average looking woman to my mind, but I had men offering to date me on their first email to me. What a rush! Mind you, a lot of these guys were neanderthals. Took me a lot to block all the a$$holes but I managed to kill most of them. That still left me with a ton of really down to earth sincere men to choose from. Since I was not looking for something permanent yet, I tried to focus in on the ones that were looking for a more casual sort of relationship. I mean, I did not want to single out one guy too soon. I was looking for some action and I wanted some variety in that action. No need to settle down right away.
That rating site also had a bunch of advice articles for dating on the Internet. I learned not to blab any personal information until I was really sure about the party I was talking to. So rather than behave like a she-bitch in heat and rush into the arms of any man paying me attention, I kept my distance for a while. That was at the cost of another bunch of batteries. In any event, I played my cards close to my chest. Eventually I found four different guys who could meet with me on my terms. A couple of them had similar work schedules to me, one was a salesman with irregular hours, and the other was between jobs. At this point I really did not care too much about their future prospects, I just wanted to know if they had something that would satisfy my itch.
I arranged to meet each of them in very public places at first. You have no idea how hard it was for me to get through two or three dates each without rushing somewhere and ripping off their clothes. I did however, remember the warnings from the site and took my time. I decided that two of them just gave me no spark, so I quickly ditched them. The other two are part of a weekly juggling act. I meet one on Tuesday afternoon, and the other on Thursday afternoon. It is not all sex, but pretty much always ends in sex. God it feels so good! Seems that for this farm girl, two is variety enough. For now!
This all started about four months ago, and I am now scouting around on the dating sites for something more permanent. Since I have a couple of guys who are more like friends with benefits, I am able to take my time to finding the love of my life. I am in no hurry. This is any single woman's dream come true from my perspective. At least now I can look for guys who are available at regular times. I am more interested in the long term dating and long term prospects angle on this search. Please wish me luck!
In case you are interested in the site that I got my leads from you can find it here:
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